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Coming to Your Senses

Life fights dirty, it's time to admit defeat in order to fight back and take full control.

The truth is revealed, men and women really are different!

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How to Take Control of Your Life
Men vs. Women: Smell, Hearing, Sight

How to Take Control of Your Life

"You have to take the actions and steps you need to get to your goals."

"Take responsibility and ownership for doing the things that made the great things happen."

Sounds like something from a motivational speaker or a pep rally leader, right?

In fact, Lara Goldman is neither of these.

The quotes above come from a woman who "had it all." But then lost it all.

She had a great marriage and relationship. She had a job she loved, that gave her the financial stability to do what she wanted, when she wanted.

All that changed with a plane crash.

Goldman's husband was taken from her, suddenly and violently. And while this kind of life-altering event would be hard for most, it was especially painful for Goldman. Over the years, Goldman had lived a kind of 'charmed life' free from painful loss, like losing a grandparent.


Step One: Admit What You Can't Control

Goldman's approach started when she realized that she was powerless in the face of her grief. She couldn't hold it in, and she had no way to deal with it other than to just let it out.

More than once, Goldman found herself in a grocery store, surrounded by people, but still overcome by a sudden bout of grief.

She didn't hide it. She just cried, right there.

And for two years, Goldman kept up with her daily life and healed as best she could. She gave herself permission to go after what she needed each moment. If she had to cry, she cried. Simple as that.


Step Two: Realize What You Can Control

For Goldman, her daily life in the U.S. only gave her so much healing opportunity. She still had to do the same old day-in, day-out we're all used to.

Unfortunately, it wasn't enough for her.

Instead of feeling trapped by commitments (career, house, friends), she decided to put herself first.

The rest of the world understood. Her old workplace continues on. Her old house has found a new owner.

Today, Goldman lives in Belize, which is in Central America just beside Guatemala and below Mexico. There, she enjoys a slower pace of life, and got the valuable healing time she needed. She exercizes, journals, or sometimes just watches the waves and dolphins.


The One Lesson You Need to Know

Goldman's situation was a tragedy, and her actions drastic. But, that doesn't make that kind of sudden life change the wrong thing to do.

In fact, just the opposite.

If you feel trapped in your life, take a good, hard look at what's keeping you in that trapped place. Write a list of all the things keeping you where you are. Then, think about how you might get around them.

If money is a problem, do a little research and look into the cost and style of living in other places in the world. Suburban living in Belize might be a little pricey, but most people can get by there on $120 US a week. Consider how you want to live as well as where you want to live.

It's a big world out there. Changing how you live your life doesn't have to be an impossible task.

Remember, in the words of someone who lost it all, then found something different that worked...

"You have to take the actions and steps you need to get to your goals."

Men vs. Women: Smell, Hearing, Sight

For a lot of things, men and women often don't see eye-to-eye.

And after scientists put male and female senses to the test, it turns out they don't smell nose-to-nose, or hear ear-to-ear either. Real differences exist that can put the sexes on two very different playing fields.

Is one sex better than the other? At least, in terms of smell, hearing, and sight?

Thorough scientific testing has put the sexes' senses to the test. And after the data has been tabulated and the numbers crunched, here are the results.


Round 1 – Smell

In the smell rivalry, two battlefields have to be considered.

First, everyday smells like sensing how ripe or rotten food is, knowing if something's burning, or noticing a perfume.

The sexes are fairly similar with everyday scents. At least as far as gender factors are concerned, men and women can be considered the same. Life events may change things. If a chef has refined his or her palette, or if a man or woman smokes, this will play a big part.

But in the second battlefield, being sensitive to other peoples' scents, women come out ahead. Overall, women are just better at noticing how other people smell.

Here's how we know that.

Scientists wanted to determine how to mask body odor from both males and females. So, they tested how effective they could be in hiding

  • male odor from males,
  • male odor from females,
  • female odor from males,
  • and female odor from females.

Researchers took approximately 40 different materials to text. The results were surprising.

  • About 20 of the materials could mask female body odor from men.
  • About 13 of the materials could hide male body odor from other men.
  • Just 2 materials could hide female body odor from other females.
  • Not a single material successfully hid male body odor from females.

When it comes to smell, score a point for women.

The Score: Women 1, Men 0.


Round 2 – Hearing

For both men and women, hearing tends to get worse over time. The older men and women get, the worse they can hear.

But, hearing declines faster for men.

Even though women are more likely to have the hearing advantage later in life, that doesn't mean women are naturally better at hearing than men are. Scientists suspect environmental factors play a big part.

When children, boys and girls don't show any marked difference in hearing. And as life goes on, men are more likely to be exposed to hearing damage. Smoking, heart disease, being in the military, and not wearing earplugs can all hurt hearing; and men are more likely to do all of these things over the course of their life.

We can't award a point to either side here.

The Score: Women 1, Men 0.


Round 3 – Sight

Seeing is about more than fine detail or color. How helpful your vision is really depends on what you're doing and what you have to see.

If you're cooking, then color and fine detail are most important.

But, if you're trying to find a predator stalking you, or an enemy soldier, then quick changes and motion recognition can save your life.

For men and women, vision breaks down like this.

Women have a much easier time telling one color from the other, and seeing the difference between two very similar colors. For example, turquoise and seafoam may seem similar to men, but noticeably different to women.

On the other side of matters, men have an easier time finding motion, or seeing things that move or change very fast. Pictures that change rapidly on a screen are much better identified by men than by women.

This round, men and women are different, not better. Points awarded to both sides.

The Final Score: Women 2, Men 1.


Thanks to their super-powered sense of smell, women win this battle by a nose.